Sometimes, I wonder . . .if space aliens are watching the human race, they might think we are actually crazy. Imagine how they observe all the things that we create causal relationship to. For example:
“When I eat cheese puffs, I get bloated and they go straight to my thighs.”
“As soon as money comes in, it goes right out the door.”
“Every time I get praise, someone is there to knock me down”
“Calling a guy after the first date will push him away.”
“Menopause causes hot flashes, irritability and low sex drive.”
Our human experience is full of what’s called false-causality – a fallacy based on the mistaken assumption that because one event follows another, the first event caused the second. We create them, we speak them and worse, we expect them (which from a Law of Attraction point of view), creates more evidence of them. Then we naturally create behaviors to create even more evidence of them, OR behaviors to protect ourselves from them.
As children, this skill is part of our survival. From the time of our birth and through the development of our more rational prefrontal cortex, creating a predictable causal map of the world is crucial to our well-being. Yet, even as children, much of our map is full of FALSE causality. Consider this:
Baby is learning to walk.
Baby holds on to couch as she walks the entire length of the couch – from one end to the other.
Baby gets to the end of couch and cat (who has been sitting there watching), meows.
Baby is startled and loses balance as she also runs out of couch.
Baby cries and falls.
Conclusion – Cat made me fall.
False Causal Relationship – When a cat meows, I get scared and fall.
Behavior – Avoid cats (and sometimes by extension, couches.)
It’s silly right? But our subconscious is FULL of stuff like this we don’t even question. Over time, they become facts nested neatly in the “How We Were Raised” bucket. And as we re-experience these facts, we reaffirm them. But the truth remains – correlation is NOT causation. Just because two things correlate does not necessarily mean that one causes the other. Consider another example:
Just because people spend more on sweets, candy, roses and chocolate around Valentine’s Day, doesn’t mean that Valentine’s Day CAUSES increased spending or that sweets, candy, roses and chocolate causes increased spending. No brainer, right? Valentine’s Day doesn’t CAUSE spending. Sweets, candy, roses and chocolates do not CAUSE spending.
Yet, if one wanted to suggest proof of causality of any relationship, it wouldn’t be difficult. All one would have to do is create an experiment that creates the APPEARANCE of a causal relationship. How do you create the appearance of a causal relationship? Easy.
- Simply line up the two things you want to relate.
- Collect evidence of when the appearance of one correlates with the appearance of the other.
- Ignore evidence NOT in favor of the causal relationship.
- Reinforce and reaffirm that the causal relationship is real (talk about it, think about it, speak about it).
- Anchor the evidence with some emotion (feel about it).
Collecting evidence of a causal relationship is powerful. Anchoring that evidence with emotion bumps it up the priority scale in the subconscious mind and ensures you will collect even more evidence of it and lock it in as something REAL in your experiment. The more you believe it is real, the more real it is, the more evidence you expect, the more evidence you enjoy in your reality. This is how facts are made. It’s an insidious cycle that even big pharma exploits to show causal relationship between drug and cure. Just sayin’.
Consider this: Every morning you wake up, affirm and replay GOOGLES and GOOGLES of false facts. Old stuff – stuff that’s NOT working for you. Yet, what if you were to use the same skill to create and affirm NEW causal relationships – new causal relationships that create more of the life you want – “Alternative Facts” if you will, that actually serve you. What if:
“When I eat cheese puffs, I lose weight.”
“When I spend money, double comes back to me.”
“There is no getting knocked down. There is praise and course correction.”
“When I call a guy after a first date, I am expressing my independence and confidence.”
“Being in menopause makes me feel vibrant, vital, healthy and energetic.”
If you feel some inner resistance to this, observe the objection trying to rise up. It will probably be something along the lines of:
“But that’s not true.”
“That’s not reality.”
“That’s not what studies show.”
“That’s not what my doctor says.”
“That’s not what I read on the internet.”
“That’s not how I was raised.”
Of course, that’s what YOU would say when you have no evidence of this causal relationship in your reality. You don’t yet have enough data to say that is a fact because you’re not collecting evidence of it. Not to mention, you are also stacking your results with the data collected from OTHER PEOPLE’S experiment. And this is what OTHERS would say to you when they want you to affirm THEIR version of the facts.
But if you want a life filled with evidence of your own causal relationships – things that serve you, make you happy and cause you to thrive, there’s only one thing to do – create the relationships, collect the evidence and affirm the new facts.
Let me know if you need help with this. I do it for every-day folks, every day.