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From the Mail Bag – Does hypnosis really work for weight loss?

Dear Dani,

What’s up with Hypnosis for weight loss?  Is that the real deal?  Can’t you just tell my body to let go of excess fat or just make me obsessed with working out? How much can I expect to lose in how much time?  How long will it last?  

Signed,

Stuck With Extra Pounds

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Dear Stuck,

Thanks for writing and for giving me an opportunity to provide you more information about Hypnosis for weight loss.  The short answer is yes.  It absolutely works.  I am living proof having lost nearly 80 pounds about 10 years ago using these techniques.  Not only did I lose weight, I gained something I sought for years – choice and control around food.  A lifelong obsession with sugar and carb and impulsive eating behavior was resolved using Hypnosis and NLP.

The weight issue is comprised of many variables including body image, portion control, food choices, emotional eating, exercise motivation, and even fear of the end result (who would you be and what changes if you are at your ideal weight). Everyone is different, and their reasons for holding on to weight or not changing behavior is unique and often a function of limiting beliefs and negative emotions. Through Coaching, Hypnosis, NLP, Tapping and related techniques, we target those issues, transform them and clearing them at the root — helping you create new habits, and positive behaviors so that your body can get back to it’s ideal weight.

The resolution of the weight issue is as individual as it’s cause. I can never estimate how long it will take for your body to reflect the positive changes nor can I guarantee any particular result. Yet, I do know that when we clear the issues in the way of eating a healthy diet, moving more, decreasing your stress and improving body image and self talk, the body will get back to it’s ideal weight. Client results vary from just a few pounds in the four weeks to 8 – 10 pounds or more after 4 weeks.  I also have clients who lose very little in 4 weeks but experience significant shift in their habits (eating, exercise, self talk and stress reduction) that adds up to weight loss weeks and months later.

It is also common that people will do this work with me over 4 sessions and then write me 6 – 8 weeks after their last session to let me know how much they have lost. I even had one client who wrote me 6 months after just 3 sessions, and reported a 30 lb loss. I also had one women recently write me and tell me she lost nothing but she resolved her lifelong issue with emotional binge eating – that she was no longer tormented by food. She finally felt like she had choice and control around food and this was worth so much more than losing a few pounds.  Another gentleman reported finally liking himself and his body. He didn’t care that he had only lost a few pounds. Liking himself after 40 years of hating his body was gold to him.

Folks who keep it off, keep working at it. They know that maintaining their ideal weight is a lifelong activity comprised of a healthy diet, regular activity, mindful eating, relaxation and stress management. Hypnosis can certainly help remove the barriers to performing those healthy habits so your body can get back to doing what it knows how to do – thrive!

Hope that helps and hope to see you in my chair soon!

Post Irma – Helping Out The Best Way I Can

Some of us were really fortunate to get through Irma untouched.  Some maintained power, while many lost more than just power – they lost treasured memories, businesses, homes and sadly, even loved ones. We lost time. We lost resources. We lost money. We lost faith. We lost our minds. There is no way to measure the impact of any loss or compare the stress of one loss to that of another. It’s all stress and it all takes a toll. The community is collectively stressed.

As a small business owner, this period of recovery translated into cancellations as clients now direct their attention to more basic needs, the needs of their families, and their own businesses. Completely understandable.  Yet, now I find myself with a very open schedule – a rare thing for a business typically booked solid three weeks in advance. So, what to do with that available time? I observe neighbors helping neighbors clean up debris, I see restaurants serving free meals, I see strangers sharing resources like gas, electricity, water and even opening their homes. Should I come to your house and wield a chainsaw and clear that tree trunk? Could I best serve by sweeping debris from your gutter or delivering a casserole? Do I run an extension cord and power strip from my house and invite folks to stop by for a charge? Should I just passively donate to the Red Cross from my phone? No, I believe my time and skill is worth far more to my community than my money or my sweat. I believe my ability to help others create Powerful Positive Change is the best resource I can share.

So, here’s what I have determined will have the greatest positive impact. Next week, September 18 – 22, I am offering complimentary Tapping, NLP and Stress Reduction Meditation and Mindfulness Sessions. This is open to anyone. Anyone. Sessions may last between 30 – 45 minutes. These sessions are complimentary and all I ask is that if you schedule, you show up. First come first serve. There are only a limited number of spots available and when they are gone, they are gone. Please don’t book a time unless you intend to honor your appointment. Please understand, to protect the privacy of my clients, you must book in advance as walk-ins cannot be accommodated.

Research shows that unresolved stress not only damages your body, but also primes your subconscious to react quicker not only during the next crisis but also in anticipation of it. More important, stress may cause you to misperceive situations as more stressful than they really are. Under stress, it’s nearly impossible to think rationally to make the kind of sound important decisions necessary to protect yourself, your loved ones and your home. The goal of our time together will be to help you enjoy a noticeable shift in your physical and emotional state, through the use of some of the most powerful tools in my field.  You can read more about these tools on the ABOUT THE TOOLS page of my site and read more about the clinical effectiveness of these techniques below:

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT / Tapping) has been shown to rapidly calm the nervous system and reprogram the stress response and even prevent traumatic events from imprinting on the subconscious. Read more about the effectiveness of EFT / Tapping with Veterans with PTSD. 

• In clinical trials, Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) has been shown to significantly reduce stress while reprograming neuro-associations and creating new neural pathways to change how you perceive and relate to stressors. Read more about NLP’s effectiveness on the Stress Level of Critical Care Nurses. 

Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction & Meditation has produced statistically and clinically significant decreases in PTSD and long-term resolution of anxiousness and depressive feelings by and through simply connecting to your breath and returning your focus to the present moment. Read more about the success of MBSR with Female Trauma Survivors. 

There is no catch. No pressure to book anything beyond that session. Just come in and let’s relieve some stress. Let’s get together and calm the stress response, recalibrate your inner peace and get you, and our community, back on track. What have you got to lose but some stress?

Call me at 941-681-0117 or email danifoxhypnosis@gmail.com to schedule.

*Note: Per Florida Statutes, we will not be working on any pain or any diagnosed physical or mental health condition in these sessions unless you provide a referral from your doctor or mental health practitioner. No warranties are extended and specific outcomes are not guaranteed. Individual results will vary.  Offer will not extend beyond Friday, September 22, 2017.

Try, Try Again

When you are ready to give up. . . try, try again.

A common question from new and prospective clients is “How many sessions is this going to take?” My response is often “as many as it takes for you to feel the shift you are looking for.”  I often add that clients may expect to experience a shift within the first 3 sessions, yet there is no guarantee.  Sometimes this is met with understanding and other times this is met with an incredulous scoff as if Hypnotherapy can undo years and years of behavior in a single session.  Though I have witnessed many ONE SESSION WONDERS like that, I am more realistic and remind clients that hypnotherapy is a process, that just like MANY things in their lives, requires more than one attempt.  Consider how many attempts you have made to do the following:

1. Cover all your gray.
2. Bake a souffle.
3. Lose weight.
4. Find a job.
5. Make a baby.
6. Potty train.
7. Discipline your children.
8. Make “A hole-in-one.”
9. Make money.
10. Find love.
11. Practice yoga.
12. Learn to drive.
13. Beat cancer.
14. Break a bad habit.
15. Network.
16. Learn to walk.
17. Ride a bike.
18. Learn to speak your mind.
19. Discover who you are.
20. Create change.

As with everything we do that adds value to our lives, we imagine, try, learn and grow.  We engage in a process to achieve our desired results. Achieving those results takes vision, commitment, and practice….AND it takes more than one attempt. Why should hypnotherapy be any different?  Consider the words of Poet, T. H. Palmer:

Try, Try Again

‘Tis a lesson you should heed,
If at first you don’t succeed,
Try, try again;

Then your courage should appear,
For if you will persevere,
You will conquer, never fear
Try, try again;

Once or twice, though you should fail,
If you would at last prevail,
Try, try again;

If we strive, ’tis no disgrace
Though we do not win the race;
What should you do in the case?
Try, try again

If you find your task is hard,
Time will bring you your reward,
Try, try again

All that other folks can do,
Why, with patience, should not you?
Only keep this rule in view:
Try, try again.

Be patient.  Don’t give up. Whether it’s hypnotherapy or another modality of change, keep hammering away with faith and confidence that evidence of change is appearing every day.

Looking forward to seeing you in my chair soon.

A Case for Alternative Facts

Sometimes, I wonder . . .if space aliens are watching the human race, they might think we are actually crazy.  Imagine how they observe all the things that we create causal relationship to.  For example:

“When I eat cheese puffs, I get bloated and they go straight to my thighs.”

“As soon as money comes in, it goes right out the door.”

“Every time I get praise, someone is there to knock me down”

“Calling a guy after the first date will push him away.”

“Menopause causes hot flashes, irritability and low sex drive.”

Our human experience is full of what’s called false-causality – a fallacy based on the mistaken assumption that because one event follows another, the first event caused the second.  We create them, we speak them and worse, we expect them (which from a Law of Attraction point of view), creates more evidence of them.  Then we naturally create behaviors to create even more evidence of them, OR behaviors to protect ourselves from them.

As children, this skill is part of our survival.  From the time of our birth and through the development of our more rational prefrontal cortex, creating a predictable causal map of the world is crucial to our well-being.  Yet, even as children, much of our map is full of FALSE causality.  Consider this:

Baby is learning to walk.

Baby holds on to couch as she walks the entire length of the couch – from one end to the other.

Baby gets to the end of couch and cat (who has been sitting there watching), meows.

Baby is startled and loses balance as she also runs out of couch.

Baby cries and falls.

Conclusion – Cat made me fall.

False Causal Relationship – When a cat meows, I get scared and fall.

Behavior – Avoid cats (and sometimes by extension, couches.)

It’s silly right?  But our subconscious is FULL of stuff like this we don’t even question. Over time, they become facts nested neatly in the “How We Were Raised” bucket.  And as we re-experience these facts, we reaffirm them.  But the truth remains – correlation is NOT causation.  Just because two things correlate does not necessarily mean that one causes the other.  Consider another example:

Just because people spend more on sweets, candy, roses and chocolate around Valentine’s Day, doesn’t mean that Valentine’s Day CAUSES increased spending or that sweets, candy, roses and chocolate causes increased spending.  No brainer, right?  Valentine’s Day doesn’t CAUSE spending. Sweets, candy, roses and chocolates do not CAUSE spending.

Yet, if one wanted to suggest proof of causality of any relationship, it wouldn’t be difficult.  All one would have to do is create an experiment that creates the APPEARANCE of a causal relationship.  How do you create the appearance of a causal relationship?  Easy.

  1. Simply line up the two things you want to relate.
  2. Collect evidence of when the appearance of one correlates with the appearance of the other.
  3. Ignore evidence NOT in favor of the causal relationship.
  4. Reinforce and reaffirm that the causal relationship is real (talk about it, think about it, speak about it).
  5. Anchor the evidence with some emotion (feel about it).

Collecting evidence of a causal relationship is powerful.  Anchoring that evidence with emotion bumps it up the priority scale in the subconscious mind and ensures you will collect even more evidence of it and lock it in as something REAL in your experiment.   The more you believe it is real, the more real it is, the more evidence you expect, the more evidence you enjoy in your reality. This is how facts are made.  It’s an insidious cycle that even big pharma exploits to show causal relationship between drug and cure. Just sayin’.

Consider this:  Every morning you wake up, affirm and replay GOOGLES and GOOGLES of false facts.  Old stuff – stuff that’s NOT working for you.  Yet, what if you were to use the same skill to create and affirm NEW causal relationships – new causal relationships that create more of the life you want – “Alternative Facts” if you will, that actually serve you.  What if:

“When I eat cheese puffs, I lose weight.”

“When I spend money, double comes back to me.”

“There is no getting knocked down.  There is praise and course correction.”

“When I call a guy after a first date, I am expressing my independence and confidence.”

“Being in menopause makes me feel vibrant, vital, healthy and energetic.”

If you feel some inner resistance to this, observe the objection trying to rise up.  It will probably be something along the lines of:

“But that’s not true.”

“That’s not reality.”

“That’s not what studies show.”

“That’s not what my doctor says.”

“That’s not what I read on the internet.”

“That’s not how I was raised.”

Of course, that’s what YOU would say when you have no evidence of this causal relationship in your reality.  You don’t yet have enough data to say that is a fact because you’re not collecting evidence of it.  Not to mention, you are also stacking your results with the data collected from OTHER PEOPLE’S experiment. And this is what OTHERS would say to you when they want you to affirm THEIR version of the facts.

But if you want a life filled with evidence of your own causal relationships – things that serve you, make you happy and cause you to thrive, there’s only one thing to do – create the relationships, collect the evidence and affirm the new facts.

Let me know if you need help with this.  I do it for every-day folks, every day.

 

 

As Long As It Takes

My husband and I recently went through a difficult season. We began marriage counseling in the Spring of 16. I’m not embarrassed or ashamed to admit that. Any good marriage requires care, tending and practice to develop the skills necessary to keep it strong. When we engaged the counselor weekly at $150 per session, even though both of us were very frustrated, angry and financially strapped, I never remember a moment when I had a question in my mind of “how long is this going to take?” It was really just kind of an understanding that we were going to work on this until we fixed it or until we realized it was not fixable – because that’s what our marriage deserved. Less than a year later, we celebrated Christmas and New Years with the merging our hearts in our happy household again.

My daughter was diagnosed dyslexic in the first grade. Now, I’m not much for labels, but I understand it’s what the school needed to be able to give her the services she needed to demonstrate mastery in the system. At the time, we engaged tutoring for 3 days a week for $50 per hour. We drove 2 hours up and back after school for 5 years. Yet, at no point during that journey to get my daughter where she needed to be, do I never remember a moment of “how long is this going to take” or “how many sessions this is going to take.” It was just “as long as it takes.” That’s what my daughter deserved. She deserved that kind of focused commitment as long as she needed until she felt she had a solid foundation to succeed. Today, she is a smart, savvy and successful high school senior in AP classes with a stellar GPA looking forward to college in the fall.

A few years ago, I found a lump in my left breast and a few months later, two more lumps in the right breast. I went through all of the traditional approaches to bringing resolution to this issue. Doctor appointment after doctor appointment, procedure after procedure, copay after copay. And again, my focus was “as long as it takes.” Because that’s what I deserved. Today, I am happy to report that one lump was removed and I resolved the other two through hypnotherapy, clean believing, eating, and living. I am stronger and healthier than ever before thanks to a devoted family and skilled practitioners who shared with me the “as long as it takes” mindset.

When I speak with prospective clients, the first question they pose is often “how long is this going to take?” My response – “as long as it takes.”  I usually add that I follow the client and empower them to resolve their issue as quickly as they desire.

Folks who want crock pot results in microwave time have a problem with this response. They want to know exactly how long and how much it’s going to cost before even starting the process – even though there are NO change work modalities out there that can give you this guarantee.  Then they weigh resolving the problem against time and money, and impose expectations on the process, practitioner and the outcome. The result of this mindset? Stress and disappointment.  When it doesn’t happen the way they expect, in the time they expect, and at the cost they expect they now have a problem AND frustration.  Sadly, they give up on the work and grow further and further away from their goal.

People who are serious about creating resolution, understand the “as long as it takes” mindset. They know it places focus on their commitment and continual effort to get to their goal. They acknowledge change as a process, celebrating and honoring every step and every shift (large or small) enjoyed during the journey knowing it’s all adding up to inevitable resolution.

If you are struggling in any area of your life, whether you work with me now or later, I invite you to adopt a “as long as it takes” mindset. Commit to fully resolving what’s going on for you with that same intention, energy and intensity that you would to the most serious issue in your life. That intention, energy and intensity acts like an accelerator – a driver that ignites resources known and unknown to you. The happy byproduct may just be a more rapid resolution than you ever dreamed possible.

Looking forward to working with you soon, and to seeing where we grow.

Belief-Glasses

In my practice, I believe that. . .

. . .  everyone has the power to positively change their life and the biggest thing in the way is our own fear, beliefs and negative programming.

. . . people can enjoy change of any scale across all life categories and that change can be dynamic – a single change can create a cascade of other positive changes.

. . . hypnotherapy and coaching is a safe, effective and efficient method for clients to experience powerful change — removing fear and blockages, helping them embrace new beliefs, manifest new intentions and programming for success.

. . . the client / hypnotherapist is a relationship is one of equality, marked by mutual respect, trust and faith in each other and in the hypnotherapy methods and protocols.

. . . it’s okay to execute a business model that supports reinvesting in the community, assisting disadvantaged clients, as well as appropriate and competitive compensation for my knowledge, skills and ability.

. . . there is value in continuing education as well as participating in relevant member organizations and peer groups to improve my knowledge, skills and training to offer my clients the most advanced models and tools available.

. . . .I am good at what I do and add value to the lives of my clients, business partners and to everyone I meet.

These beliefs are the heart and soul of my practice.  They shape every aspect of what I do – from the smallest business practice to every interaction with every client, every student, every business partner and community member.   My beliefs keep me personally and professionally aligned so I can give you my very best throughout our work together.

Beliefs are like sunglasses.  We get them very young, and as we  age, they become a filter between our eyeballs and the outside world.  Beliefs shape how we interpret what we see, and subsequently how we react and respond.  Some of these beliefs serve us and allow us to respond to our world with positive and empowering feelings and behaviors.  And other beliefs do not serve us and result in a very clouded and skewed perceptions of people, situations and circumstances.  This often results in limiting, disruptive and even conflicting feelings and behaviors.

Working with your beliefs is a cornerstone of our time together.  I help you clear the negative limiting beliefs and then re-connect you to your positive empowering beliefs.  Then together, we leverage them across the various domains of your life to help you thrive and succeed!

Ever thought about your own beliefs?  HERE’S A WORKSHEET TO GET YOU STARTED LOOKING AT YOUR BELIEFS.

Give it some thought and then ask yourself, what could you do with a new pair of belief glasses?

Houston, We Have a Filter

October 28, 2014

Like most of us, I enjoy movies and am rarely without an observation about life that hasn’t been characterized in some snippet of a scene from movies both popular and obscure. Some of these snippets conveniently embody entire concepts. So when I find myself at a loss for everyday words to explain the models I work with in my practice, I call upon these snippets for help communicating an idea. In some cases, recounting an entire scene is necessary.

“Houston, we have a problem.” Even if you didn’t see Apollo 13, you will recognize the line. Even if you don’t know that the statement was made in reference to a technical fault in the electrical system of one of Apollo 13’s Command Module’s oxygen tanks, you get the gist of what it means. More important, when you hear those words, or any similar phrase, something is triggered in your body.

The sympathetic nervous system detects the situation and immediately runs the FIGHT, FLIGHT OR FREEZE program. Normal, natural, human response to the problem scenario. After all, your subconscious has repeatedly rehearsed the reaction for situations both real and imagined your entire life, just so it can execute the safest response to the situation. Even if you didn’t see the movie, you could imagine that what followed those 5 words was an hour of nail-biting drama, where the audience was entertained to feel as much fear and panic as the astronauts likely felt back then – (as if we ever could.) Well, if you did see the movie, you know how quickly the focus shifted from the problem to finding a solution . . . making the Command Module’s square CO2 filters fit the round CO2 filters in the Lunar Module. NASA engineers quickly assembled to solve that age old problem — how to fit a square peg in a round hole using only materials the astronauts had on board. As an audience, we were glued and even though there was a solution in sight, our bodies stayed on the hook for the next 60 minutes. What’s up with that?

Just like in real life, when faced with a problem, the simple act of shifting our focus from the problem to finding a solution doesn’t always let our bodies off the hook. Focusing on the solution can sometimes even make you feel worse, because the act initiates the FIGHT, FLIGHT, or FREEZE program for an entirely new set of reasons. Worse, while those programs are running, our creativity is not accessible and we lose any executive function or problem solving that does not facilitate the fighting, fleeing or freeing. So even having NASA level expertise and ingenuity at your disposal, does not do much for you in the moment. This is because the prime directive of the subconscious mind is to run programs to keep you safe and comfortable and it won’t deactivate these programs until it is nestled safely in evidence of safety.

It’s not enough for a solution to be “in sight,” it has to be “in hand” before the subconscious lets your body off the hook. Exactly how long this process takes is unique to every individual. But one thing remains evident – the longer your body and mind stay engaged in the fight, flight or freeze program, the longer it takes you to return to your resourcefulness and the longer it takes to really solve a problem.

So what if you could improve your ability to do creative problem solving in the moment. Stop for a minute and breath in the phrase “Houston, we have a filter.” Let that resonate with your body. Feel the relief, feel the gratitude, feel the hope and optimism that accompanied those words. This is the moment where NASA Engineers triumphantly communicated success in creating a filter solution using plastic bags and duct tape. This is the moment where the body really gets off the hook. And it’s the REAL moment where creativity resides. It’s the moment where your mind opens back up to it’s resources and where your body can vibrate and attract new ideas and insights. Trouble is, it takes place after the fact. So to truly harness the power of your creative problem solving, to be truly resourceful, you need to begin with the end in mind. Borrow that sensation you feel at the end of the process and apply it to the front end of the problem solving process.

Sounds crazy, right? It’s possible, if you can learn that when your body perceives a problem, you can use that “feeling” being communicated to simply default to a new program – a new program called “Trust That I Can Handle Anything.” Whether you believe you are a child of God, sliver of the infinite universe, or a 4 cylinder battery with a finite charge, you have the ability to conceive, believe and receive your problem solving success in advance. When you move into a problem from this understanding, from this knowing, with this confidence, in this trust vibration, you can really solve problems on the fly using the highest volume of resources available to you. Feeling that success also raises the vibration to attract and realize that success. Success becomes inevitable.

Give it a try and then practice (the more you practice, the faster and more efficiently the program runs). Next time you sense a problem, close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths – one for the body, one for the soul and one for the mind. With each exhale, say out loud “I can handle anything.” Then dive right in with your duct tape and baggies and build yourself a filter. . . . or an entirely new life.

The Fallacy of the “180”

September 29, 2014

I had an interesting exchange with a client recently who was really thrilled with how much improvement he had seen in just a few short sessions. He mentioned really seeing and feeling a difference with his original issue, but that it wasn’t quite a “180 turn” yet. My response to him inspired me write this post because I think a “180” is something many people look for when seeking change in their lives.

Doing a “180” implies turning things around. Don’t get me wrong, the mindset of turning something around is truly positive and empowering, but it also implies that seeing the inverse, or the backside, or the opposite of your current situation is a measure improvement and growth. It’s kind of a binary view of what you think you know of the current situation and what you believe about the potential outcome.

Take a minute and look at your palm. Now, turn it over and look at the backside of your hand. Do you see that you can distinguish the backside of your hand from your palm? Yes. Your subconscious is brilliant. It holds a mental image of your palm, so as to create context for defining the backside. So right now, as you are flipping your hand over, it’s thinking “PALM” and “NOT PALM.” In the same way, to look for, to wait on or expect a 180 in your current situation, invites your subconscious mind to keep your “CURRENT SUFFERING” on standby so that it can create context and help you define “NOT CURRENT SUFFERING.” The only thing is, when the subconscious does this, it ties up tremendous emotion and resources focusing on the thing you don’t want. You continue to vibrate precious energy on the thing you don’t want. And the universe responds with. . . “Here you go” and you manifest MORE of what you are trying to move away from. You don’t want that. You want to be on a journey, not going in a circle or running a loop. You want to be looking for and manifesting in multiple directions — moving away from old patterns, events, beliefs, emotions and behaviors — looking forward, not back to where you started and not even thinking about where you are now in relation to where you started.

When you are in the midst of suffering, do you really know where you are or just where you don’t want to be? And more important, do you truly have a vocabulary for describing the opposite of that place? If you did, chances are the words would never even get close to describing what the universe could deliver on. The universe is multi-dimensional. To look for the “180” limits the universe’s ability to take you in places you never imagined. In the cosmic scheme of things, true transformation isn’t even a function of “degrees” of movement. A simple shift is enough to start you in a whole new direction that may not even be linear. Keeping your mind on where you WERE, even as if to use it as a point of origin, may keep it (and all the related negative emotions and beliefs) in your subconscious, tying up precious energy and space to manifest what you deserve.

The solution? Stop looking for the “180.” Let the past go now. Don’t even let it continue to be a context through which you define and receive the future. Trust that one positive shift begets another shift, and another shift and another shift. Expect that. Look for that. Focus on the fact that you can shift and you are shifting, instead of the amount of your shift, how it looks different from where you were and definitely instead of how much you haven’t shifted.

Remember, you don’t have a context for where you are going, rather, you are in the process of creating and manifesting something totally incredible, in a whole new context. Don’t limit where you will go by keeping your subconscious focused on where you were.

Want some help getting started? As you stand there right now, imagine taking out of your body, any negative feelings and beliefs that characterize the current suffering you feel. In your mind, imagine attaching it to a rock, and drop the rock in front of your feet. As the rock falls to the ground, imagine that the impact radiates out in front of you, and an infinite field of beams of light and possibility appear in your future. This may even be above your head or down through the floor – wherever the future appears to you in your mind. Now, agree to let the rock called “current suffering” go. Step over it. Move forward into this future and leave the rock behind you. Let it go. You don’t need it any more. Even better, now that it is behind you, notice how it easily fades away, dissolves away, fades away until it’s just you, standing there in the field of all the possibilities of your future. Notice how the beams remain. The possibilities remain. It’s just you and all the possibilities of your future. Notice how good that makes you feel. Notice how you don’t need to see the opposite of that suffering to see everything radiating out in front of you. Notice how when you are focused on the possibilities, you are no longer suffering. And notice how you can now even have gratitude for the rock having helped you create the field of possibilities you are now standing in.

Suffering is no fun for sure. But don’t look for a 180. Instead, use it, let it go and then move forward into the possibilities it creates. It may feel different. But different is just different, not bad or scary. Keep moving and manifesting forward and toward what you want and what you believe is possible. Better yet, believe in the positive improbable. The more work you do, the more you increase the inevitability of your desired outcome. The more evidence you collect, the more real it becomes, until that reality is all you see — until that way of seeing the world is the only way you see the world.

And so it is.