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Try, Try Again

When you are ready to give up. . . try, try again. A common question from new and prospective clients is "How many sessions is this going to take?" My response is often "as many as it takes for you to feel the shift you are looking for."  I often add that clients may expect to experience a shift within the first 3 sessions, yet there is no guarantee.  Sometimes this is met with understanding and other times this is met with an incredulous scoff as if Hypnotherapy can undo years and years of behavior in a single session.  Though I have witnessed many ONE SESSION WONDERS like that, I am more realistic and remind clients that hypnotherapy is a process, that just like MANY things in their lives, requires more than one attempt.  Consider how many attempts you have made to do the following: 1. Cover all your gray. 2. Bake a souffle. 3. Lose weight. 4. Find a job. 5. Make a baby. 6. Potty train. 7. Discipline your children. 8. Make "A hole-in-one." 9. Make money. 10. Find love. 11. Practice yoga. 12. Learn to drive. 13. Beat cancer. 14. Break a bad habit. 15. Network. 16. Learn to walk. 17. Ride a bike. 18. Learn to speak your mind. 19. Discover who you are. 20. Create change. As with everything we do that adds value to our lives, we imagine, try, learn and grow.  We engage in a process to achieve our desired results. Achieving those results takes vision, commitment, and practice....AND it takes more than one attempt. Why should hypnotherapy be any different?  Consider the words of Poet, T. H. Palmer: Try, Try Again 'Tis a lesson you should heed, If at first [...]

A Case for Alternative Facts

Sometimes, I wonder . . .if space aliens are watching the human race, they might think we are actually crazy.  Imagine how they observe all the things that we create causal relationship to.  For example: "When I eat cheese puffs, I get bloated and they go straight to my thighs." "As soon as money comes in, it goes right out the door." "Every time I get praise, someone is there to knock me down" "Calling a guy after the first date will push him away." “Menopause causes hot flashes, irritability and low sex drive.” Our human experience is full of what's called false-causality - a fallacy based on the mistaken assumption that because one event follows another, the first event caused the second.  We create them, we speak them and worse, we expect them (which from a Law of Attraction point of view), creates more evidence of them.  Then we naturally create behaviors to create even more evidence of them, OR behaviors to protect ourselves from them. As children, this skill is part of our survival.  From the time of our birth and through the development of our more rational prefrontal cortex, creating a predictable causal map of the world is crucial to our well-being.  Yet, even as children, much of our map is full of FALSE causality.  Consider this: Baby is learning to walk. Baby holds on to couch as she walks the entire length of the couch - from one end to the other. Baby gets to the end of couch and cat (who has been sitting there watching), meows. Baby is startled and loses balance as she also runs out of couch. Baby cries and falls. Conclusion - Cat made me fall. [...]

A Parable of Contrast

Occasionally, an idea or parable or story will just drop into my awareness - fully baked, meaning, I don't have to think about it or edit it in any way.  It is perfect pure creation the minute it is perceived.   The following came to me today as I was driving to my office to see a client.  I dictated it into my phone in a single take - adjectives, dialog and all.  It was truly a stunning experience.  I know I channel greater wisdom when I get out of the way, so the fact that it happened was no surprise.  Yet the relevance of the topic, the poignant nature of what came through, and how easy it came through suggests it was intended for a larger audience.  I hope it speaks to you in some way too. _________ Two old friends met on a path one day and took a walk in the cool autumn air.  The crunch of the colorful fall leaves echoed throughout the fragrant forest and set the cadence for their step and conversation. "The trees are so bare this time of year and the forest creatures and birds scarcely have enough to shield themselves from the elements," said Scarcity. "Yet there is a festive bounty of leaves beneath our feet that yields protection while the bare trees provide ample exposure to the warmth of the sun. One could imagine that the little creatures can see better now than ever before their food and their delights,"  replied Abundance. "And the days are growing shorter," observed Scarcity, "there's hardly enough light in the day to find what they need to survive the cold coming winter." "Yet," replied Abundance, "somehow their bodies know to instinctively [...]

As Long As It Takes

My husband and I recently went through a difficult season. We began marriage counseling in the Spring of 16. I'm not embarrassed or ashamed to admit that. Any good marriage requires care, tending and practice to develop the skills necessary to keep it strong. When we engaged the counselor weekly at $150 per session, even though both of us were very frustrated, angry and financially strapped, I never remember a moment when I had a question in my mind of "how long is this going to take?" It was really just kind of an understanding that we were going to work on this until we fixed it or until we realized it was not fixable - because that’s what our marriage deserved. Less than a year later, we celebrated Christmas and New Years with the merging our hearts in our happy household again. My daughter was diagnosed dyslexic in the first grade. Now, I'm not much for labels, but I understand it's what the school needed to be able to give her the services she needed to demonstrate mastery in the system. At the time, we engaged tutoring for 3 days a week for $50 per hour. We drove 2 hours up and back after school for 5 years. Yet, at no point during that journey to get my daughter where she needed to be, do I never remember a moment of “how long is this going to take” or “how many sessions this is going to take.” It was just “as long as it takes.” That’s what my daughter deserved. She deserved that kind of focused commitment as long as she needed until she felt she had a solid foundation to succeed. Today, she [...]

What’s Up With That 3 Session Protocol?

Dear Dani, I see on your website that you only work with new clients in a 3-session package protocol. What's up with that? You helped my neighbor in just one session. I heard you are really good and I know you can resolve my issue in 1 session. My issue is really easy and I know I don’t need 3 sessions. I don't want to waste my time or money. I see other hypnotherapists around town don’t require this. Why do you? Signed, One Session Wonder _______________________________ Dear Wonder, Thanks for writing and for giving me an opportunity to explain. I get this question a lot. First off, let me say that I am excited for you, your enthusiasm and your knowing that your issue will be resolved quickly. That's outstanding! Congratulations! The power of the mind is incredible and if you set the intention for your issue to be resolved quickly, you make that reality more likely. Well done you for having a leg up in the process. And thank you for your faith in me to help bring rapid resolution to the issue. Yet, there's something I know from my experience as both a student and facilitator of this work - clients are never upset for the reason they think. Often, they present with one issue, for example procrastination, sleeplessness, stress, fear of public speaking etc., and when we dive into the work, we find that the issue is really something rooted deeper in limiting beliefs, negative influencing life events, fear, low self-esteem, etc. So in reality, the first session only scratches the surface. Often, that one session is rarely enough time to truly uncover and transform the root of the problem. You [...]

Living Clean in ’17

One resolution. Just one. What if you could whittle it down to one resolution? Maybe you would embrace something like “Show more love.” Maybe you would announce you are going to “Be more positive.” Maybe you would lock in something dynamic that would create seismic shift in your life. And why not? It’s exciting to make resolutions. It draws out a sense of hope and positivity as we look forward to the wonderful byproducts of driving toward a goal. It’s a part of our nature to dream and look forward to our future. Yet, inevitably, within a few weeks of our great proclamation, we forget. We lose momentum. We create caveats and expose exceptions to the resolution such that it becomes less of a resolution and more like a nice idea. No blame or shame. That’s part of our nature too. So, let’s not make it so hard. This year, why not join me in making one simple resolution. One easy, simple and refined point of view through which to filter our thoughts, actions, behaviors and choices. This year, why not join me in “Living Clean in '17.” That’s it. A single resolution to make “Living Clean” a daily practice. Of course, you’ll have to take a minute to think about what “Clean” means to you. Perhaps Clean is a vibration. Perhaps it’s a sense of purity or simplicity. Perhaps it’s an awareness of alignment or truth. Whatever it is for you, there’s a good chance you will know what “Clean” is for you, when you consider “Dirty.” You probably have some good examples of “Living Dirty” to use as contrast. We will all have different definitions of “Clean” but that shouldn’t stop anyone from [...]

Belief-Glasses

In my practice, I believe that. . . . . .  everyone has the power to positively change their life and the biggest thing in the way is our own fear, beliefs and negative programming. . . . people can enjoy change of any scale across all life categories and that change can be dynamic – a single change can create a cascade of other positive changes. . . . hypnotherapy and coaching is a safe, effective and efficient method for clients to experience powerful change -- removing fear and blockages, helping them embrace new beliefs, manifest new intentions and programming for success. . . . the client / hypnotherapist is a relationship is one of equality, marked by mutual respect, trust and faith in each other and in the hypnotherapy methods and protocols. . . . it's okay to execute a business model that supports reinvesting in the community, assisting disadvantaged clients, as well as appropriate and competitive compensation for my knowledge, skills and ability. . . . there is value in continuing education as well as participating in relevant member organizations and peer groups to improve my knowledge, skills and training to offer my clients the most advanced models and tools available. . . . .I am good at what I do and add value to the lives of my clients, business partners and to everyone I meet. These beliefs are the heart and soul of my practice.  They shape every aspect of what I do - from the smallest business practice to every interaction with every client, every student, every business partner and community member.   My beliefs keep me personally and professionally aligned so I can give you my very best throughout our [...]

You can’t teach an old dog new tricks. . . .

. . . .but can you teach him to carve? This time of the year, we do a lot of carving. We carve pumpkins. We carve turkeys. We carve cakes and pies. We carve out time for friends, family and football. We are pretty good carvers. So, what if I told you, you could also carve new pathways in your brain? Not possible, you say? Well, if you buy into that idea that you can’t teach old dogs new tricks, then you are right. But, if you are willing to consider a new truth, you will celebrate knowing that your brain is like a big ball of silly putty – able to be shaped into a zillion different configurations to serve up your very best you! What makes that possible? Neuroplasticity, according to MedicineNet, is “the brain's ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. Neuroplasticity allows the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain to . . . adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment.” Why celebrate this? Well, put simply, old dog, it means you don’t have to learn any new tricks. You just have to carve – carve new pathways in the brain. Not only is it possible, but it’s scientifically proven. What’s more, the brain was designed to do it and it’s doing this all the time whether we apply conscious effort or not. The brain’s ability to learn, wire and rewire and re-use pathways is an adaptation that has evolved in the interest of your survival. So, if you don’t like your reality, you can carve out new pathways by simply changing your beliefs, thoughts and behaviors and reinforcing them. It’s [...]

Success Factors for a Positive Outcome with Hypnotherapy

“I’ve tried hypnosis in the past but it didn’t work.” This is something I’ve heard more times than I can count -- at parties, workshops, networking events, expo’s and even in my own office. Most of the time, people attribute this to the false belief that they are not hypnotizable. While I personally have never encountered someone who was not hypnotizable, I do find there are some people who suspend disbelief more easily than others. Just like with anything else in life, there are some who run head long into the subconscious playground and others who take a bit more time. There is no right or wrong way to do this work. Yet, before you default to the notion that hypnosis is not effective or that you are not able to be hypnotized, consider the following success factors to that contribute to a positive outcome. Success Factors (click to expand each section) What we have seen on TV is not hypnosis. What you DO see is commonly over dramatized to emphasize rapid change or even mind control. . .or worse, brainwashing. Hypnosis is NONE of those things. It’s a process - a truth seeking process. A process of deconstructing what you THINK and FEEL is your truth, and reconstructing the REAL truth, your inner truth, and then connecting your body, thoughts and behaviors to it. Your truth is that “knowing” that lives in the deepest part of your innocent child heart and on the tip of the tongue of your highest self. Although there are certainly “one-session wonders,” rarely does this shift happen in one session. It’s not unheard of, it’s just rarely seen. Just like you cannot expect to transform your body [...]

Finding Commonality in Random Things – Kale & Hypnosis

Kale is more popular than ever. Maybe this is news to you, or maybe you are reading this from the front row seat of the Kale-Wagon. Or maybe, like me, you are just making it through your first bag of green leafy goodness. Either way, like it, love it, tolerate or hate it, you might be surprised to learn the 3 ways in which Kale is like Hypnosis. 1. It’s Been Around For A Long Time: • Kale: The dark, leafy green has been a staple on dinner plates since Roman times and has long been common across much of Europe. The plant is thought to have originated in Asia Minor and to have been brought to Europe around 600 B.C. by groups of Celtic wanderers. • Hypnosis: Although the word “hypnosis” wasn’t even coined until the mid-1800’s, hypnosis has its origin in the Ancient Sleep temples of Egypt and the Oracles of Greece. Divining answers, creating perspective and connecting to inner wisdom through a lucid sleep-like state has been a regularly accepted practice across the globe since before the dawn of time. 2. It’s Commonly Regarded As A "Break Glass In Case of Emergency" Thing: • Kale: Let’s face it. Kale would probably be your last choice of leafy greens – after you had tried EVERYTHING else in the produce section. If your local grocery store was out of iceberg, romaine, and spinach, you’d still likely choose one of Kale’s cousins – cabbage, broccoli or cauliflower before tossing the big fluffy bag in your cart – that is, of course, unless you needed a garnish for your fried macaroni and cheese balls. • Hypnosis: It’s not a scientific study, but I have observed that 9 [...]