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Post Irma – Helping Out The Best Way I Can

Some of us were really fortunate to get through Irma untouched.  Some maintained power, while many lost more than just power – they lost treasured memories, businesses, homes and sadly, even loved ones. We lost time. We lost resources. We lost money. We lost faith. We lost our minds. There is no way to measure the impact of any loss or compare the stress of one loss to that of another. It’s all stress and it all takes a toll. The community is collectively stressed.

As a small business owner, this period of recovery translated into cancellations as clients now direct their attention to more basic needs, the needs of their families, and their own businesses. Completely understandable.  Yet, now I find myself with a very open schedule – a rare thing for a business typically booked solid three weeks in advance. So, what to do with that available time? I observe neighbors helping neighbors clean up debris, I see restaurants serving free meals, I see strangers sharing resources like gas, electricity, water and even opening their homes. Should I come to your house and wield a chainsaw and clear that tree trunk? Could I best serve by sweeping debris from your gutter or delivering a casserole? Do I run an extension cord and power strip from my house and invite folks to stop by for a charge? Should I just passively donate to the Red Cross from my phone? No, I believe my time and skill is worth far more to my community than my money or my sweat. I believe my ability to help others create Powerful Positive Change is the best resource I can share.

So, here’s what I have determined will have the greatest positive impact. Next week, September 18 – 22, I am offering complimentary Tapping, NLP and Stress Reduction Meditation and Mindfulness Sessions. This is open to anyone. Anyone. Sessions may last between 30 – 45 minutes. These sessions are complimentary and all I ask is that if you schedule, you show up. First come first serve. There are only a limited number of spots available and when they are gone, they are gone. Please don’t book a time unless you intend to honor your appointment. Please understand, to protect the privacy of my clients, you must book in advance as walk-ins cannot be accommodated.

Research shows that unresolved stress not only damages your body, but also primes your subconscious to react quicker not only during the next crisis but also in anticipation of it. More important, stress may cause you to misperceive situations as more stressful than they really are. Under stress, it’s nearly impossible to think rationally to make the kind of sound important decisions necessary to protect yourself, your loved ones and your home. The goal of our time together will be to help you enjoy a noticeable shift in your physical and emotional state, through the use of some of the most powerful tools in my field.  You can read more about these tools on the ABOUT THE TOOLS page of my site and read more about the clinical effectiveness of these techniques below:

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT / Tapping) has been shown to rapidly calm the nervous system and reprogram the stress response and even prevent traumatic events from imprinting on the subconscious. Read more about the effectiveness of EFT / Tapping with Veterans with PTSD. 

• In clinical trials, Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) has been shown to significantly reduce stress while reprograming neuro-associations and creating new neural pathways to change how you perceive and relate to stressors. Read more about NLP’s effectiveness on the Stress Level of Critical Care Nurses. 

Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction & Meditation has produced statistically and clinically significant decreases in PTSD and long-term resolution of anxiousness and depressive feelings by and through simply connecting to your breath and returning your focus to the present moment. Read more about the success of MBSR with Female Trauma Survivors. 

There is no catch. No pressure to book anything beyond that session. Just come in and let’s relieve some stress. Let’s get together and calm the stress response, recalibrate your inner peace and get you, and our community, back on track. What have you got to lose but some stress?

Call me at 941-681-0117 or email danifoxhypnosis@gmail.com to schedule.

*Note: Per Florida Statutes, we will not be working on any pain or any diagnosed physical or mental health condition in these sessions unless you provide a referral from your doctor or mental health practitioner. No warranties are extended and specific outcomes are not guaranteed. Individual results will vary.  Offer will not extend beyond Friday, September 22, 2017.

Try, Try Again

When you are ready to give up. . . try, try again.

A common question from new and prospective clients is “How many sessions is this going to take?” My response is often “as many as it takes for you to feel the shift you are looking for.”  I often add that clients may expect to experience a shift within the first 3 sessions, yet there is no guarantee.  Sometimes this is met with understanding and other times this is met with an incredulous scoff as if Hypnotherapy can undo years and years of behavior in a single session.  Though I have witnessed many ONE SESSION WONDERS like that, I am more realistic and remind clients that hypnotherapy is a process, that just like MANY things in their lives, requires more than one attempt.  Consider how many attempts you have made to do the following:

1. Cover all your gray.
2. Bake a souffle.
3. Lose weight.
4. Find a job.
5. Make a baby.
6. Potty train.
7. Discipline your children.
8. Make “A hole-in-one.”
9. Make money.
10. Find love.
11. Practice yoga.
12. Learn to drive.
13. Beat cancer.
14. Break a bad habit.
15. Network.
16. Learn to walk.
17. Ride a bike.
18. Learn to speak your mind.
19. Discover who you are.
20. Create change.

As with everything we do that adds value to our lives, we imagine, try, learn and grow.  We engage in a process to achieve our desired results. Achieving those results takes vision, commitment, and practice….AND it takes more than one attempt. Why should hypnotherapy be any different?  Consider the words of Poet, T. H. Palmer:

Try, Try Again

‘Tis a lesson you should heed,
If at first you don’t succeed,
Try, try again;

Then your courage should appear,
For if you will persevere,
You will conquer, never fear
Try, try again;

Once or twice, though you should fail,
If you would at last prevail,
Try, try again;

If we strive, ’tis no disgrace
Though we do not win the race;
What should you do in the case?
Try, try again

If you find your task is hard,
Time will bring you your reward,
Try, try again

All that other folks can do,
Why, with patience, should not you?
Only keep this rule in view:
Try, try again.

Be patient.  Don’t give up. Whether it’s hypnotherapy or another modality of change, keep hammering away with faith and confidence that evidence of change is appearing every day.

Looking forward to seeing you in my chair soon.

A Case for Alternative Facts

Sometimes, I wonder . . .if space aliens are watching the human race, they might think we are actually crazy.  Imagine how they observe all the things that we create causal relationship to.  For example:

“When I eat cheese puffs, I get bloated and they go straight to my thighs.”

“As soon as money comes in, it goes right out the door.”

“Every time I get praise, someone is there to knock me down”

“Calling a guy after the first date will push him away.”

“Menopause causes hot flashes, irritability and low sex drive.”

Our human experience is full of what’s called false-causality – a fallacy based on the mistaken assumption that because one event follows another, the first event caused the second.  We create them, we speak them and worse, we expect them (which from a Law of Attraction point of view), creates more evidence of them.  Then we naturally create behaviors to create even more evidence of them, OR behaviors to protect ourselves from them.

As children, this skill is part of our survival.  From the time of our birth and through the development of our more rational prefrontal cortex, creating a predictable causal map of the world is crucial to our well-being.  Yet, even as children, much of our map is full of FALSE causality.  Consider this:

Baby is learning to walk.

Baby holds on to couch as she walks the entire length of the couch – from one end to the other.

Baby gets to the end of couch and cat (who has been sitting there watching), meows.

Baby is startled and loses balance as she also runs out of couch.

Baby cries and falls.

Conclusion – Cat made me fall.

False Causal Relationship – When a cat meows, I get scared and fall.

Behavior – Avoid cats (and sometimes by extension, couches.)

It’s silly right?  But our subconscious is FULL of stuff like this we don’t even question. Over time, they become facts nested neatly in the “How We Were Raised” bucket.  And as we re-experience these facts, we reaffirm them.  But the truth remains – correlation is NOT causation.  Just because two things correlate does not necessarily mean that one causes the other.  Consider another example:

Just because people spend more on sweets, candy, roses and chocolate around Valentine’s Day, doesn’t mean that Valentine’s Day CAUSES increased spending or that sweets, candy, roses and chocolate causes increased spending.  No brainer, right?  Valentine’s Day doesn’t CAUSE spending. Sweets, candy, roses and chocolates do not CAUSE spending.

Yet, if one wanted to suggest proof of causality of any relationship, it wouldn’t be difficult.  All one would have to do is create an experiment that creates the APPEARANCE of a causal relationship.  How do you create the appearance of a causal relationship?  Easy.

  1. Simply line up the two things you want to relate.
  2. Collect evidence of when the appearance of one correlates with the appearance of the other.
  3. Ignore evidence NOT in favor of the causal relationship.
  4. Reinforce and reaffirm that the causal relationship is real (talk about it, think about it, speak about it).
  5. Anchor the evidence with some emotion (feel about it).

Collecting evidence of a causal relationship is powerful.  Anchoring that evidence with emotion bumps it up the priority scale in the subconscious mind and ensures you will collect even more evidence of it and lock it in as something REAL in your experiment.   The more you believe it is real, the more real it is, the more evidence you expect, the more evidence you enjoy in your reality. This is how facts are made.  It’s an insidious cycle that even big pharma exploits to show causal relationship between drug and cure. Just sayin’.

Consider this:  Every morning you wake up, affirm and replay GOOGLES and GOOGLES of false facts.  Old stuff – stuff that’s NOT working for you.  Yet, what if you were to use the same skill to create and affirm NEW causal relationships – new causal relationships that create more of the life you want – “Alternative Facts” if you will, that actually serve you.  What if:

“When I eat cheese puffs, I lose weight.”

“When I spend money, double comes back to me.”

“There is no getting knocked down.  There is praise and course correction.”

“When I call a guy after a first date, I am expressing my independence and confidence.”

“Being in menopause makes me feel vibrant, vital, healthy and energetic.”

If you feel some inner resistance to this, observe the objection trying to rise up.  It will probably be something along the lines of:

“But that’s not true.”

“That’s not reality.”

“That’s not what studies show.”

“That’s not what my doctor says.”

“That’s not what I read on the internet.”

“That’s not how I was raised.”

Of course, that’s what YOU would say when you have no evidence of this causal relationship in your reality.  You don’t yet have enough data to say that is a fact because you’re not collecting evidence of it.  Not to mention, you are also stacking your results with the data collected from OTHER PEOPLE’S experiment. And this is what OTHERS would say to you when they want you to affirm THEIR version of the facts.

But if you want a life filled with evidence of your own causal relationships – things that serve you, make you happy and cause you to thrive, there’s only one thing to do – create the relationships, collect the evidence and affirm the new facts.

Let me know if you need help with this.  I do it for every-day folks, every day.

 

 

A Parable of Contrast

Occasionally, an idea or parable or story will just drop into my awareness – fully baked, meaning, I don’t have to think about it or edit it in any way.  It is perfect pure creation the minute it is perceived.   The following came to me today as I was driving to my office to see a client.  I dictated it into my phone in a single take – adjectives, dialog and all.  It was truly a stunning experience.  I know I channel greater wisdom when I get out of the way, so the fact that it happened was no surprise.  Yet the relevance of the topic, the poignant nature of what came through, and how easy it came through suggests it was intended for a larger audience.  I hope it speaks to you in some way too.

_________

Two old friends met on a path one day and took a walk in the cool autumn air.  The crunch of the colorful fall leaves echoed throughout the fragrant forest and set the cadence for their step and conversation.

“The trees are so bare this time of year and the forest creatures and birds scarcely have enough to shield themselves from the elements,” said Scarcity.

“Yet there is a festive bounty of leaves beneath our feet that yields protection while the bare trees provide ample exposure to the warmth of the sun. One could imagine that the little creatures can see better now than ever before their food and their delights,”  replied Abundance.

“And the days are growing shorter,” observed Scarcity, “there’s hardly enough light in the day to find what they need to survive the cold coming winter.”

“Yet,” replied Abundance, “somehow their bodies know to instinctively store fat and nutrients now to carry them through to the generosity of spring.”

“They’re running out of time,” remarked Scarcity.  “It’s only a matter of time before they become someone else’s preparation.”

“Yes, there’s plenty of that going around,” replied Abundance.  “And for this, we are grateful as it inspires evolution and gives life to the great thinkers, great do-ers and great be-ers of the next generation.  For this cycle, is the cause of the abundance of species and the cause of the abundance of adaptations to their survival. ”

Abundance and Scarcity stopped on the path, and under the colorful canopy speckled with sunlight, smiled warmly at each other.  The moment was filled with acceptance and appreciation even in light of their different views of the world – just what you would expect of old friends.  They walked for some time into the sunset, enjoying the unadulterated silence of the simple awareness of each other until they came to the inevitable fork in the path where they would part ways, just as they have done many times before.

“Thank you, old friend,” said Abundance, “without you, I would not know myself.”

Scarcity smiled.  “Thank you, my friend.  It is through you, that I know myself better.”

And with gratitude and thanks, each turned and continued down their respective paths into the reality of their own creation, until such time as their paths would invariably and joyfully cross again.

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By and through experiences with things, people, ideas and circumstance which you are not, you discover and reinforce who you are.  Be grateful for everything, everyone and every moment.  It’s all teaching you something precious about yourself.

As Long As It Takes

My husband and I recently went through a difficult season. We began marriage counseling in the Spring of 16. I’m not embarrassed or ashamed to admit that. Any good marriage requires care, tending and practice to develop the skills necessary to keep it strong. When we engaged the counselor weekly at $150 per session, even though both of us were very frustrated, angry and financially strapped, I never remember a moment when I had a question in my mind of “how long is this going to take?” It was really just kind of an understanding that we were going to work on this until we fixed it or until we realized it was not fixable – because that’s what our marriage deserved. Less than a year later, we celebrated Christmas and New Years with the merging our hearts in our happy household again.

My daughter was diagnosed dyslexic in the first grade. Now, I’m not much for labels, but I understand it’s what the school needed to be able to give her the services she needed to demonstrate mastery in the system. At the time, we engaged tutoring for 3 days a week for $50 per hour. We drove 2 hours up and back after school for 5 years. Yet, at no point during that journey to get my daughter where she needed to be, do I never remember a moment of “how long is this going to take” or “how many sessions this is going to take.” It was just “as long as it takes.” That’s what my daughter deserved. She deserved that kind of focused commitment as long as she needed until she felt she had a solid foundation to succeed. Today, she is a smart, savvy and successful high school senior in AP classes with a stellar GPA looking forward to college in the fall.

A few years ago, I found a lump in my left breast and a few months later, two more lumps in the right breast. I went through all of the traditional approaches to bringing resolution to this issue. Doctor appointment after doctor appointment, procedure after procedure, copay after copay. And again, my focus was “as long as it takes.” Because that’s what I deserved. Today, I am happy to report that one lump was removed and I resolved the other two through hypnotherapy, clean believing, eating, and living. I am stronger and healthier than ever before thanks to a devoted family and skilled practitioners who shared with me the “as long as it takes” mindset.

When I speak with prospective clients, the first question they pose is often “how long is this going to take?” My response – “as long as it takes.”  I usually add that I follow the client and empower them to resolve their issue as quickly as they desire.

Folks who want crock pot results in microwave time have a problem with this response. They want to know exactly how long and how much it’s going to cost before even starting the process – even though there are NO change work modalities out there that can give you this guarantee.  Then they weigh resolving the problem against time and money, and impose expectations on the process, practitioner and the outcome. The result of this mindset? Stress and disappointment.  When it doesn’t happen the way they expect, in the time they expect, and at the cost they expect they now have a problem AND frustration.  Sadly, they give up on the work and grow further and further away from their goal.

People who are serious about creating resolution, understand the “as long as it takes” mindset. They know it places focus on their commitment and continual effort to get to their goal. They acknowledge change as a process, celebrating and honoring every step and every shift (large or small) enjoyed during the journey knowing it’s all adding up to inevitable resolution.

If you are struggling in any area of your life, whether you work with me now or later, I invite you to adopt a “as long as it takes” mindset. Commit to fully resolving what’s going on for you with that same intention, energy and intensity that you would to the most serious issue in your life. That intention, energy and intensity acts like an accelerator – a driver that ignites resources known and unknown to you. The happy byproduct may just be a more rapid resolution than you ever dreamed possible.

Looking forward to working with you soon, and to seeing where we grow.

What’s Up With That 3 Session Protocol?

Dear Dani,

I see on your website that you only work with new clients in a 3-session package protocol. What’s up with that? You helped my neighbor in just one session. I heard you are really good and I know you can resolve my issue in 1 session. My issue is really easy and I know I don’t need 3 sessions. I don’t want to waste my time or money. I see other hypnotherapists around town don’t require this. Why do you?

Signed,

One Session Wonder

_______________________________

Dear Wonder,

Thanks for writing and for giving me an opportunity to explain. I get this question a lot.

First off, let me say that I am excited for you, your enthusiasm and your knowing that your issue will be resolved quickly. That’s outstanding! Congratulations! The power of the mind is incredible and if you set the intention for your issue to be resolved quickly, you make that reality more likely. Well done you for having a leg up in the process. And thank you for your faith in me to help bring rapid resolution to the issue.

Yet, there’s something I know from my experience as both a student and facilitator of this work – clients are never upset for the reason they think. Often, they present with one issue, for example procrastination, sleeplessness, stress, fear of public speaking etc., and when we dive into the work, we find that the issue is really something rooted deeper in limiting beliefs, negative influencing life events, fear, low self-esteem, etc. So in reality, the first session only scratches the surface. Often, that one session is rarely enough time to truly uncover and transform the root of the problem.

You see, roots are often NOT the thing you are struggling with in every-day life, yet they hold the key to transforming the issue. Think of root issues like cracks in a foundation of a home. When there is a crack in the foundation, the effects are often seen all the way up through to the roof. In fact, your first sign of trouble may actually be a crack observed in a wall or in the separation of molding or door framing. Now, you know you could hire a contractor to come out and repair those things, yet you also know that won’t resolve what’s going on at the foundation. The quick fix only resolves the most recent and superficial expression of the cracked foundation.

When you work with me, you are often walking in my door presenting the most recent, superficial expression of what’s going on at your foundation because that’s all you really see. In truth, it takes time to get to and repair the foundation. So our first session is about carefully tracing the trouble back to it’s deeper origins. The 3 session protocol allows us the time and space to do this mindfully and with care for what comes up along the way. And our goal is to repair, not to simply seal the crack. It’s a process that simply takes time. To stop the work after one session, allows the root problem to persist likely creating an expression somewhere else in your life later.

This is at the heart of the work I do and why I bring new clients in under a 3 session package. This may not be at the heart of the work some others do, and that’s okay. This is the approach, I have observed, that yields results. With that, regardless of the length of our relationship, I promise to always be working with the utmost efficiency to bring you resolution because your time, your money, and your faith in me as a practitioner is important. I pledge to always be working to deliver the greatest value, and the best result, in the shortest amount of time. The 3 Session Package Protocol is designed to deliver on that pledge.

If you are interested in saving time and money in resolving your issue, you can easily apply the same logic here as you would to the cracked foundation problem in your home. Simply repairing the roof or the walls will save time and money, for sure, and it may give the appearance of a change, but the foundation problem will persist and only result in more cracks, more cost, more time, and more suffering later. And just like we see in home repair, if you opt for the quick fix, you will likely pay for it ten times over in the end when the problem rears its head somewhere else.

Hope that helps and hope to see you in my chair soon!

Living Clean in ’17

One resolution. Just one. What if you could whittle it down to one resolution?

Maybe you would embrace something like “Show more love.” Maybe you would announce you are going to “Be more positive.” Maybe you would lock in something dynamic that would create seismic shift in your life. And why not? It’s exciting to make resolutions. It draws out a sense of hope and positivity as we look forward to the wonderful byproducts of driving toward a goal. It’s a part of our nature to dream and look forward to our future.

Yet, inevitably, within a few weeks of our great proclamation, we forget. We lose momentum. We create caveats and expose exceptions to the resolution such that it becomes less of a resolution and more like a nice idea. No blame or shame. That’s part of our nature too.
So, let’s not make it so hard. This year, why not join me in making one simple resolution. One easy, simple and refined point of view through which to filter our thoughts, actions, behaviors and choices. This year, why not join me in “Living Clean in ’17.” That’s it. A single resolution to make “Living Clean” a daily practice.

Of course, you’ll have to take a minute to think about what “Clean” means to you. Perhaps Clean is a vibration. Perhaps it’s a sense of purity or simplicity. Perhaps it’s an awareness of alignment or truth. Whatever it is for you, there’s a good chance you will know what “Clean” is for you, when you consider “Dirty.” You probably have some good examples of “Living Dirty” to use as contrast.
We will all have different definitions of “Clean” but that shouldn’t stop anyone from playing along. Living Clean of Mind can easily include allowing other people to live their own definition of “Clean.”

And to make it even easier, how about directing that “Living Clean” resolution to the three key facets of our lives – Mind, Body and Spirit.  Here are some ideas to get your started along with a handy thought / behavior filter.

Simply ask yourself. . . .”Is this choice, thought, action, food ‘clean’ for me?”

If it creates or cultivates a Clean

[Mind, Body, Spirit], repeat it.

If it doesn’t create or cultivate a Clean [Mind, Body, Spirit], release it.

Living Clean in Mind
• releasing limiting mental images and stories / creating empowering mental images and stories
• removing yourself from dirty external ideas and images / ingesting clean ideas and images

Living Clean in Body
• releasing poisons and toxins / ingesting high value natural clean fuel
• releasing manufactured chemicals / embracing natural products
• releasing physical abuse / cherishing your body

Living Clean in Spirit
• releasing judgement / filtering through love
• releasing doubt / embracing faith and positive expectancy

In the course of a day, there are thousands of opportunities for “Living Clean.” You may not nail every decision, every day. That’s okay. Don’t be so hard on yourself (Living Clean of Mind). Each experience holds a new opportunity for Living Clean. The goal is simply to create and collect more evidence of “Living Clean” than “Living Dirty,” so that when you look back on 2017, evidence of “Living Clean” will be all you see.

Pop on over to Facebook and join the discussion with the “Living Clean in ’17” community. As you NOW become more and more mindful of Living Clean in all areas of your life. Share your ah-has, insights and inspirations with the group and please be sure to use the hashtag #livingcleanin17 in your post and let us know if it’s Clean of Mind, Clean of Body, or Clean of Spirit.

This might be the one resolution that finally brings you the Powerful Positive Change you’ve been seeking.

Belief-Glasses

In my practice, I believe that. . .

. . .  everyone has the power to positively change their life and the biggest thing in the way is our own fear, beliefs and negative programming.

. . . people can enjoy change of any scale across all life categories and that change can be dynamic – a single change can create a cascade of other positive changes.

. . . hypnotherapy and coaching is a safe, effective and efficient method for clients to experience powerful change — removing fear and blockages, helping them embrace new beliefs, manifest new intentions and programming for success.

. . . the client / hypnotherapist is a relationship is one of equality, marked by mutual respect, trust and faith in each other and in the hypnotherapy methods and protocols.

. . . it’s okay to execute a business model that supports reinvesting in the community, assisting disadvantaged clients, as well as appropriate and competitive compensation for my knowledge, skills and ability.

. . . there is value in continuing education as well as participating in relevant member organizations and peer groups to improve my knowledge, skills and training to offer my clients the most advanced models and tools available.

. . . .I am good at what I do and add value to the lives of my clients, business partners and to everyone I meet.

These beliefs are the heart and soul of my practice.  They shape every aspect of what I do – from the smallest business practice to every interaction with every client, every student, every business partner and community member.   My beliefs keep me personally and professionally aligned so I can give you my very best throughout our work together.

Beliefs are like sunglasses.  We get them very young, and as we  age, they become a filter between our eyeballs and the outside world.  Beliefs shape how we interpret what we see, and subsequently how we react and respond.  Some of these beliefs serve us and allow us to respond to our world with positive and empowering feelings and behaviors.  And other beliefs do not serve us and result in a very clouded and skewed perceptions of people, situations and circumstances.  This often results in limiting, disruptive and even conflicting feelings and behaviors.

Working with your beliefs is a cornerstone of our time together.  I help you clear the negative limiting beliefs and then re-connect you to your positive empowering beliefs.  Then together, we leverage them across the various domains of your life to help you thrive and succeed!

Ever thought about your own beliefs?  HERE’S A WORKSHEET TO GET YOU STARTED LOOKING AT YOUR BELIEFS.

Give it some thought and then ask yourself, what could you do with a new pair of belief glasses?

You can’t teach an old dog new tricks. . . .

. . . .but can you teach him to carve?

This time of the year, we do a lot of carving. We carve pumpkins. We carve turkeys. We carve cakes and pies. We carve out time for friends, family and football. We are pretty good carvers. So, what if I told you, you could also carve new pathways in your brain? Not possible, you say? Well, if you buy into that idea that you can’t teach old dogs new tricks, then you are right.

But, if you are willing to consider a new truth, you will celebrate knowing that your brain is like a big ball of silly putty – able to be shaped into a zillion different configurations to serve up your very best you! What makes that possible? Neuroplasticity, according to MedicineNet, is “the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. Neuroplasticity allows the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain to . . . adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment.”

Why celebrate this? Well, put simply, old dog, it means you don’t have to learn any new tricks. You just have to carve – carve new pathways in the brain. Not only is it possible, but it’s scientifically proven. What’s more, the brain was designed to do it and it’s doing this all the time whether we apply conscious effort or not. The brain’s ability to learn, wire and rewire and re-use pathways is an adaptation that has evolved in the interest of your survival. So, if you don’t like your reality, you can carve out new pathways by simply changing your beliefs, thoughts and behaviors and reinforcing them. It’s that simple.

Check out this video by Sentis and pay attention to the part where the white arrows are replaced by the yellow arrows. This is new pathways overwriting old pathways. This is brain change. This is life change. Think about it. What if this was your brain overwriting old beliefs and limitations, or how you respond to certain people, or certain situations or even how you respond to pie! The possibilities are endless!

So this autumn, create a new reality by carving out some time to carve out some new pathways in the brain. Not sure how to get started?

Step 1 – Breathe, imagine a new reality and believe it’s possible to be in that reality. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Bang. New pathway created. Wasn’t that easy?

Step 2 – contact me and let me help you take it to a whole new level. I’m a living breathing example that even old dogs can carve out a new life.

Happy carving!

Success Factors for a Positive Outcome with Hypnotherapy

“I’ve tried hypnosis in the past but it didn’t work.” This is something I’ve heard more times than I can count — at parties, workshops, networking events, expo’s and even in my own office. Most of the time, people attribute this to the false belief that they are not hypnotizable. While I personally have never encountered someone who was not hypnotizable, I do find there are some people who suspend disbelief more easily than others. Just like with anything else in life, there are some who run head long into the subconscious playground and others who take a bit more time. There is no right or wrong way to do this work. Yet, before you default to the notion that hypnosis is not effective or that you are not able to be hypnotized, consider the following success factors to that contribute to a positive outcome.

Success Factors (click to expand each section)

What we have seen on TV is not hypnosis. What you DO see is commonly over dramatized to emphasize rapid change or even mind control. . .or worse, brainwashing. Hypnosis is NONE of those things. It’s a process – a truth seeking process. A process of deconstructing what you THINK and FEEL is your truth, and reconstructing the REAL truth, your inner truth, and then connecting your body, thoughts and behaviors to it. Your truth is that “knowing” that lives in the deepest part of your innocent child heart and on the tip of the tongue of your highest self. Although there are certainly “one-session wonders,” rarely does this shift happen in one session. It’s not unheard of, it’s just rarely seen. Just like you cannot expect to transform your body in one visit to the gym, you have to have realistic expectations of hypnosis. Being clear on what hypnosis is, and what it isn’t helps set the stage for a successful experience because you have a clear expectation of what success looks like when it works. And it DOES work, when it’s regarded as a process. That’s the truth.
There are countless techniques for engaging the subconscious mind and creating a shift in thought and behavior – meditation, breath work, parts work, childhood regression, past life regression, NLP, meridian tapping. The list goes on. The right technique is key to helping you break through old memories, release negative emotions and clear limiting beliefs to change behavior. Some techniques can even instill an aversion to something or create a fear to performing the unwanted behavior (i.e. smoking). This may create the temporary perception of a shift, but it may also create another negative feeling or unwanted behavior in the process. Further, cookie cutter approaches, generic recordings, or mass conference style sessions, may bombard the subconscious with positive suggestions in the moment, but these suggestions only land on the wall like water balloons. Yeah, they get the wall wet, but they do not break it down. This work is about breaking down the walls and building a bridge, path or tunnel to the life you want. Working with a qualified hypnotherapist one on one or in small groups can ensure the right technique is used to help you create the shift you desire.
Not all hypnotherapists are created equal. Training standards vary by state, philosophy and program. You have to ask yourself how much technique a practitioner can lend if they received their training in a weekend seminar. Seriously. It is imperative to weigh the depth, length and comprehensiveness of training when selecting someone to work with. Also consider the accreditation of the program they graduated from and / or any membership organizations that certify their skill. Practitioner training will absolutely impact your outcome as it directly affects the technique consideration above. Do your research. If this information is NOT on the practitioner’s website, ask the question in a consult. Most hypnotherapists should offer a free consult and it’s your right to inquire and see evidence of training at that time. If you feel there are gaps in their training, keep looking. You don’t want to perpetuate the false belief that YOU are no hypnotizable, when really, the practioner’s lack of skill was the reason you couldn’t get into hypnosis and enjoy a shift.
If you want a positive outcome, you must actively look for a positive outcome, expect it and then celebrate it when you see it. You must make a conscious effort to observe where things are changing for the better, track the change, collect evidence of it and reinforce it. Unfortunately, more times than not, clients enjoy a subtle shift, but then divert their attention back to what still doesn’t feel right. Focusing on the deficit in your situation may rob you of the beauty, joy and relief connected to the shift that has occurred and cause you to believe hypnosis is now working. Before you succumb to that possibility, make sure you have been relentless in your collection of evidence that things ARE changing. Then use this awareness and accompanying feeling to boost your confidence that hypnosis IS working for you. . . . and more important, that YOU are a key ingredient to making it happen.
Hypnosis, NLP and Tapping are incredible tools for desensitizing you to triggers. But triggers are everywhere, in every domain and in multiple contexts of our lives, so they may not all clear at once. So take heart, when a trigger gets your attention. It’s not a sign that hypnosis isn’t working, it’s simply an indication that the trigger may not have cleared in that specific context. Then remember, you can either be a victim of a trigger or take control them. If you are tracking as described above, you know that the trigger and your reaction to it, is not the sum total of you and your progress. Take control. Lean into it. The feeling it creates in you will pass. If not, remove yourself from the situation. If you can’t physically remove yourself, mentally remove yourself. Close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Shift your state. Lean on the tools and techniques your qualified hypnotherapist has given you to handle situations like this. If you are not seeing progress you really have to examine how much control you are taking of those triggers.
While you are waiting to see change, are you challenging your current thought processes? Those repetitive negative rehashes of the past and rehearsals for the future are contributing to your suffering. So refuse to be driven to think of these thoughts. If they are not contributing to where you want to be, stop giving them air time. Instead, get into the driver’s seat. CHOOSE what you think and this will change how you feel and consequently, how you behave. Draw into consciousness new thoughts that support where you want to be. Keep the thoughts of the shift in focus, and so too will you see more of it.
this work is like peeling away layers of an onion to get at the core. Every time we work together, we work with the layer that is available – whatever you and your subconscious are ready to reveal at that time. In every session, we set the intention to go deeper and deeper to clear issues at the root. How many sessions and how quickly this happens is going to be a function of right timing. It will also be a function of how ready and willing you are to let it all go. Be patient with yourself and trust that you are a part of a process and getting better every day. Your shift is unfolding in its divine right time.
This work will shake things up. You may even feel things you do not recognize – sensations in your body you have no words for – dry heaves for behaviors that you used to mindlessly execute. Just remember, different isn’t bad, it’s just different. So stick with it. Be tenacious. Push through that different feeling. The shift, the love, the peace, the balance, the harmony, the change you are seeking IS on the other side of where you are. Be tenacious in the quest for your positive outcome.
One of the best ways to ensure your success, is to tap into the feeling of having that success in advance. Expressing gratitude for the change you are trying to create brings it into the NOW and the NOW acts like a massive amplifier. It brings evidence of that change into focus and attracts more of it. So, you want to see this work WORK for you? Expect the shift, express gratitude for the shift in advance, and collect evidence of the shift. Doing so will allow you to take advantage of the universe’s most incredible gift designed to help you with this process – The Law of Attraction.

 

When people say to me “I’ve tried hypnosis in the past but it didn’t work,” I am quick to reply, “what do you mean by you tried?” “What exactly did you do to drive your success?” No blame or shame implied here, just curious about one’s perception of their own effort and role in the process. More often than not, I find that they gave up after one session. Baring extraordinary circumstances, hypnosis DOES work and for more issues, conditions, problems and opportunities than you ever imagined. But effort is key if you want that positive outcome. Half-hearted input into this process will yield the same output. If you think hypnosis will just magically stop a behavior without your involvement, think again. It will definitely help you feel different. It can even create a disconnect with a certain triggers and hot buttons, but unless you make an effort to do something with that new awareness, you may never know you experienced a shift in the first place.

Making an effort also includes listening to the recordings, collecting the evidence, making observations, pushing through triggers and having faith in yourself. You can’t really say you tried, if you are NOT doing these things.

Is it fair for me to put responsibility back on the client to help drive the change? Why not? People pay me for MY best effort, so why shouldn’t you bring yours? There are plenty of practitioners who will continue to take money while clients make half-hearted attempts to change. But that’s not me. I do this work because it works. It changed my life and everything I learned is yours for the asking — the opportunity to create the shift, the tools to sustain the shift and the momentum to create more of it in other areas of life. All I ask is that you TRY.